Borders

bordersWe live in a world of borders. Of boundaries, within and without. There’s check-ins, check-outs, passports, barbed wire, controls, guards, rivers, unseen lines in the sand. We all want to go somewhere. And we all pass through borders to get there.

We carry our borders within us. What we know, what we lived so far, the world we see and feel and touch, our friends, our families, our experiences — that is our territory. Sometimes we go out, conquer something new. “I didn’t know I could do that…” “I just found out that…” These are words, formulas, they’re spells that we invoke when we extend our borders.

But sometimes there’s no need to walk through there. We look, we see, and what we cannot see, we can imagine. All the world’s stories are means of introspection, for a good story has within it the magic to transport us within. We walk in the heroes’ shoes, we see through their eyes and feel with their hearts. We shudder at their cruelty, we cry their tears and laugh their joy. We live their lives, if only for a time. And thus we learn. “Would I have done that?” “What would I have done?” This magic helps us scry beyond our borders.

The way we are dictates the way we walk, the way we conquer. Some of us wonder far and wide, amassing lands, never stopping in wonder of what lies beyond the wall. Then there are others that erect huge towers, from which they can see far and wide. They never walk, for they don’t believe it necessary. They can see just fine from up there. These are the most extreme, of course — most of us will do both during a lifetime. Sometimes our friends do walk ahead us, and we follow. Other times not, because we see the pit they fell in, or the lions they encountered. And so we live. And learn.

And then there are the times when life throws us off balance. We’re wondering content within our borders when a tornado drops us into Oz. Everything’s new, everything’s different, and all we ever knew is now long one. In times like these one learns about oneself. To one’s glory, or perhaps to one’s dismay — for even the cruellest of the tyrants are heroes of their own story, and no one likes to see a villain in the mirror.

Indeed, most of us walk through life without ever having to ask ourselves the hard questions. Look in the eyes of the next stranger you meet — can you see his potential? Can you see yours? Did Hitler imagine the horrors he’ll cause when he was just a corporal in the Austrian army? If a tornado would tear you from your cosy little world and drag you into an Inquisition court, would you side with the cardinal? Or with the witch?

We can only imagine.

Thursday December 4th, 2008 Thoughts
  • http://www.rottenkid.org/ RottenKid

    scuze ca las comentariul in romana , am inceput de 3 ori sa-l scriu in engleza si nu mi-a iesit niciodata ce am vrut exact sa zic. nu cred ca suntem noi cei care ne “caram” granitele , limitele cu noi ci suntem cei care ni-le (im)punem . nu suntem atat de deschisi la minte (sper sa nu jignesc) incat sa stim ca trecutul e trecut iar prezentul e prezent. continuam sa bagam trecutul in prezent si probabil din frica sau din comoditate nu suntem dispusi sa incepem de la 0. ne e rusine sa invatam lucruri noi si ne este rusine sa spunem cand nu stim ceva. vrem tot timpul sa avem o imagine in fata cuiva iar de foarte multe ori o imagine falsa. nu stim sa ne acceptam sau sa ne toleram iar pentru asta o sa fim tot timpul niste oameni inchisi care se vor complace in rahatul in care stau . din cand in cand ne stergem acel rahat (turcesc bine-nteles) de pe ochi dar asta se intampla ca o ultima incercare de a ne salva de noi , nu pentru a ne integra uneori.
    e foarte usor sa judeci pe cineva dar sa uitam sa ne judecam pe noi inainte de toate, noi pentru noi suntem perfectiunea iar daca cineva nu ne accepta in modul in care noi ne percepem atunci ne simtim victime si nu ne gandim daca chiar e vina noastra.
    sarind peste tot ce am zis mai sus (am ars-o rau de tot aiurea) cred ca inainte sa incepem sa exploram lumea de afara trebuie sa invatam sa ne cunoastem pe noi insine iar abia apoi putem porni in acel “journey of knowledge”

    ps: scuze ca ti-am invadat si pocnit articolul si blog-ul cu un comment in romana , nu trebuie sa-l lasi pe blog eu oricum mi-am spus parerea :p

  • http://www.rottenkid.org RottenKid

    scuze ca las comentariul in romana , am inceput de 3 ori sa-l scriu in engleza si nu mi-a iesit niciodata ce am vrut exact sa zic. nu cred ca suntem noi cei care ne “caram” granitele , limitele cu noi ci suntem cei care ni-le (im)punem . nu suntem atat de deschisi la minte (sper sa nu jignesc) incat sa stim ca trecutul e trecut iar prezentul e prezent. continuam sa bagam trecutul in prezent si probabil din frica sau din comoditate nu suntem dispusi sa incepem de la 0. ne e rusine sa invatam lucruri noi si ne este rusine sa spunem cand nu stim ceva. vrem tot timpul sa avem o imagine in fata cuiva iar de foarte multe ori o imagine falsa. nu stim sa ne acceptam sau sa ne toleram iar pentru asta o sa fim tot timpul niste oameni inchisi care se vor complace in rahatul in care stau . din cand in cand ne stergem acel rahat (turcesc bine-nteles) de pe ochi dar asta se intampla ca o ultima incercare de a ne salva de noi , nu pentru a ne integra uneori.
    e foarte usor sa judeci pe cineva dar sa uitam sa ne judecam pe noi inainte de toate, noi pentru noi suntem perfectiunea iar daca cineva nu ne accepta in modul in care noi ne percepem atunci ne simtim victime si nu ne gandim daca chiar e vina noastra.
    sarind peste tot ce am zis mai sus (am ars-o rau de tot aiurea) cred ca inainte sa incepem sa exploram lumea de afara trebuie sa invatam sa ne cunoastem pe noi insine iar abia apoi putem porni in acel “journey of knowledge”

    ps: scuze ca ti-am invadat si pocnit articolul si blog-ul cu un comment in romana , nu trebuie sa-l lasi pe blog eu oricum mi-am spus parerea :p

  • http://www.shadowscape.eu Laur

    Kidule, si care e diferenta? Granitele sunt reale; cine le-a pus acolo, de ce, cand, astea sunt intrebari academice. Granitele ce ni se impun din afara sunt uneori chiar mai usor de depasit decat cele pe care ni le punem constient sau nu noi insine.

    Perfectiunea e prin definitie stagnanta. Oricine se considera perfect va considera de asemenea ca nu mai are nimic de invatat.

    Oricum, eu n-am vrut sa vorbesc decat despre granite. Despre faptul ca ele exista, si despre felul in care oamenii le accepta sau le darama de-a lungul vietii. Nu judec binele sau raul din spatele actiunilor fiecaruia, pentru ca nu sunt eu cel in masura sa ridic piatra. Doar constat. Si merg mai departe, cu speranta ca atunci cand voi fi fata in fata cu propriile granite, voi sti sa le recunosc. Si poate voi fi in stare sa trec peste ele.

  • http://blog.loridani.net Laur

    Kidule, si care e diferenta? Granitele sunt reale; cine le-a pus acolo, de ce, cand, astea sunt intrebari academice. Granitele ce ni se impun din afara sunt uneori chiar mai usor de depasit decat cele pe care ni le punem constient sau nu noi insine.

    Perfectiunea e prin definitie stagnanta. Oricine se considera perfect va considera de asemenea ca nu mai are nimic de invatat.

    Oricum, eu n-am vrut sa vorbesc decat despre granite. Despre faptul ca ele exista, si despre felul in care oamenii le accepta sau le darama de-a lungul vietii. Nu judec binele sau raul din spatele actiunilor fiecaruia, pentru ca nu sunt eu cel in masura sa ridic piatra. Doar constat. Si merg mai departe, cu speranta ca atunci cand voi fi fata in fata cu propriile granite, voi sti sa le recunosc. Si poate voi fi in stare sa trec peste ele.

  • Just me

    I dont agree with you Laurentiu, that perfection stagnates and that whoever thinks of himself as perfect will also think that he has nothing else to learn.

    When someone thinks of himself as perfect, he is able to accept himself as normal, as “good to go”, as “good enough”. In today‘s society everybody tells us who to be. Whether it‘s our parents, teachers, partner or friends.

    Without accepting yourself you cannot be happy. Acceptation of yourself is what I name “see yourself as perfect”. Believe me, I mean no arogant thoughts by this. I also don‘t think that once you accept yourself, the learning process stops. That won‘t stop untill we die. And who knows, maybe even then not :)

    You can think you‘re perfect and still fall in your nose in a difficult situation. So what, even that is fun.

  • Just me

    I dont agree with you Laurentiu, that perfection stagnates and that whoever thinks of himself as perfect will also think that he has nothing else to learn.

    When someone thinks of himself as perfect, he is able to accept himself as normal, as “good to go”, as “good enough”. In today‘s society everybody tells us who to be. Whether it‘s our parents, teachers, partner or friends.

    Without accepting yourself you cannot be happy. Acceptation of yourself is what I name “see yourself as perfect”. Believe me, I mean no arogant thoughts by this. I also don‘t think that once you accept yourself, the learning process stops. That won‘t stop untill we die. And who knows, maybe even then not :)

    You can think you‘re perfect and still fall in your nose in a difficult situation. So what, even that is fun.

  • Just me

    P.S. love your pics & blog

  • Just me

    P.S. love your pics & blog

  • http://www.shadowscape.eu Laur

    I think you misunderstand me. A normal person is not perfect, nor should one see oneself as such. That has nothing to do with accepting oneself, or being able to be happy. If you well and truly know yourself, you will know your faults as well as strong points, and you will be able to use both to move forward in life.

    Perfection is flawless. There are no flawless human beings — or at least I haven’t met any. There are, however, people that see themselves as perfect, and they are an obnoxious lot at the best of times. They can hardly abstain from preaching from the height of their perfection, and they ignore advice or criticism as being by and large unfounded — because they’re perfect. Such a person has no chance to grow, to learn. Normal people will, by contrast, strive to be better all their life.

    That was the point I tried to make.

  • http://blog.loridani.net Laur

    I think you misunderstand me. A normal person is not perfect, nor should one see oneself as such. That has nothing to do with accepting oneself, or being able to be happy. If you well and truly know yourself, you will know your faults as well as strong points, and you will be able to use both to move forward in life.

    Perfection is flawless. There are no flawless human beings — or at least I haven’t met any. There are, however, people that see themselves as perfect, and they are an obnoxious lot at the best of times. They can hardly abstain from preaching from the height of their perfection, and they ignore advice or criticism as being by and large unfounded — because they’re perfect. Such a person has no chance to grow, to learn. Normal people will, by contrast, strive to be better all their life.

    That was the point I tried to make.

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